“Will you marry me” The 4 words that will change any girls life! When my fiancé proposed I was flooded with so many emotions, thoughts, questions and just so overjoyed. See I am the type of girl that wants to plan everything, to every detail I can, so I instantly wanted to start planning. I mean my freshman year of college I created a pinterest board of my dream wedding like every other girl. But one of the best pieces of advice that I received as a newly engaged was, “enjoy your engagement”, and as simple as those words sounded, it was possibly the only piece that stuck, and the whole purpose of this post.
- ENJOY YOUR ENGAGEMENT! When you look back, you’ll want think back at this stage of your life and remember the giddy feelings you got showing off that beautiful and sparkly bling, and calling your then boyfriend, your fiancé now. I can’t even begin to say how much I probably annoyed my fiancé by saying the word “fiancé” any chance I could, but it was okay, because you only get to be a “fiancée” once in your life (and I know he loved it when I called him that 🙂
- DON’T BE AFRAID TO… say you are not ready to discuss details. This was a lesson learned for me that I thankfully caught onto early enough. What I mean is, if you haven’t set anything in stone there is nothing wrong with discussing your ideas with close friends but do remember that people remember “these ideas”. What easily can be a conversation about “Oh we are definitely having an open bar” but then you realize maybe your budget doesn’t allow for a complete open bar but instead you can only offer wine and beer, people will remember the “we are DEFINITELY having an open bar” conversation. What I learned to do is to simply say “we are still discussing that etc etc” and lead the conversation to something you are sure of instead. On the other hand don’t be afraid to talk “wedding talk” when a friend/relative asks you questions. Whoever this person is, usually they are pretty close to you enough to feel comfortable to even ask details, and I know as a new bride to be you are dying to just gush about your wedding just be cautious with the details.
- TAKE A STEP BACK & BREATHE! Seriously! I know how exciting it is to start thinking about the day of your dreams but trust me once you start planning, you won’t stop! Whether you decide to have 6 month engagement or a 3 year engagement, take a week/month to just take a step back and let this moment sink in. This is where you can start thinking about what do you envision for your wedding. I always thought I would have this huge 300 guest count wedding and then when we got engaged I really started thinking, is that what I truly want?! Or is that just what I think I should have? Ultimately this day is about you and your future husband, a celebration of your love and unity, so take that moment to really let that sink in.
Hope you all enjoyed my first post! I plan to have a new post ready for ya’ll every Wednesday, you know, Wedding Wednesdays! Stay tuned for next week’s post! We are talking gifts for the newly engaged bride to be, specifically all the ones she will really use! Til next time.