Hi there!! So I don’t know about ya’ll but it feels like once one friend is engaged, it turns into a whirlwind and everyone around you is engaged. To top it off, imagine being a BRIDE and a BRIDESMAID during the same period of time. So today’s post is about how to handle it, if you fit both roles.
Remember the “titles” when appropriate
This one should really be common sense. If you are at your friends bridal shower, you are there to celebrate the BRIDE. Take the bride hat off for just a bit, and let the moment be about her. It is bound to happen that people at the event may ask you about your own wedding planning, and that is perfectly fine, just make sure at the end of the day, the shower/event turns back to being about the bride herself.
I know this may be hard (just because you are so excited about your own events), but do not compare how your wedding/bachelorette/bridal shower will be soooo much more different that your friends. Regardless if you are the bride or the bridesmaid, this can be hurtful to one another and should just be avoided in general. If you are having an open bar but your bridesmaid is having a cash bar, that is okay! There is no need to let all her friends know about the differences. They’ll be able to attend the events and experience it themselves.
Don’t spread yourself too thin
If you have committed to being a bridesmaid make sure you fulfill your duties and manage the expenses and time that come with that. The bride is counting on you for all the events and for you to just be there for her. On the other end, as a Bride, be mindful that your bridesmaid also has her own wedding to plan and expenses associated. Also as a bride, don’t forget that you have your own wedding to plan, it can get so easy to get wrapped up in your friends wedding especially if hers is closer. Basically make sure you are paying attention to both roles equally.
Use this time to bond
I had the honor of being a bridesmaid for a friend while being engaged. It was amazing for both of us to be engaged at the same time, be in each others weddings and get to experience wedding planning together. We got to vent to each other, and recommend vendors as well! It worked out soooo good for us and I wish every Bride has an opportunity to be engaged at the same time as one of their besties.
Fun Fact: 3 out of my 6 bridesmaids were engaged when I was engaged as well & I was/will be part of their wedding party as well! Thankfully it was staggered just a bit, so I was able to focus on each of their weddings/events one at a time! So trust me when I say, it can be done! 🙂