Planning my wedding has taught me so many things about myself that I can’t wait to take this experience and grow from it at the end. I have learned the definition of PATIENCE. I have learned to deal with people a lot better and understand that a wedding vendor may not be sitting with their mailbox open and ready to respond. So in today’s post I am writing about the different planning approaches I have learned about and what you can hopefully learn from as well.
- Focus on one thing at a time: This is so much harder than it seems but it is a life saver. When I started planning I wanted to book everything right away but I had to take a step back and recognize that I would easily get overwhelmed, not really focus on the vendor I am looking to book, and possibly make rash decisions without really researching my options. A great example I can give you, without a venue, you can’t really book anything else such as a photographer, caterer and etc. Let’s say you went ahead and inquired to the photographer of your dreams, well first thing they are going to ask is “What is your wedding date” because they have to check their availability. Chances are you can’t pick your date without a venue. See where I am going with this? Or if you book your bartender and then you learn your venue requires you to use their bartender. Also all inclusive venues– maybe you thought that was the route you were DEFINITELY NOT going to go for, but then you find the venue of your dreams that includes everything, but too bad because you already paid a deposit for a DJ/Catering. So my advice, make a checklist of your priorities in terms of vendors and work your way through the list.
- Research, research: If you are not hiring a wedding planner (which I highly recommend that you do), this is how you will quickly identify what vendors will work for you. Email 20 caterers! It’s just an email, if the price is too high, a simple “thank you for your response” email is fine. Think of it this way, when you are purchasing a car, you are probably test driving several cars before you decide “this is the one”. So don’t settle with the first quote you receive because it is under-budget or you don’t want to keep looking. There is way too many resources readily available such as the knot, that it makes it almost too easy to find vendors nowadays. Research and compare vendors. What does one vendor provide over the other or why is one more expensive than the other and so on.
- Talk to your fiance: This is one of those “DUHs” but I love this tip. Usually one or the other is more invested in the wedding planning process (typically the bride) but I am lucky to have a fully involved groom! He attends meetings with me and actually gives me input. It’s funny because of course there are some things he cares about more than others and it still catches me by surprise at the stuff he takes interest in. So make sure you are getting your fiance’s input because even though they may say “Whatever you want/ Up to you” they still care, at the end of the day it is their wedding day too 🙂
- My last tip for you throughout your planning, enjoy it! Cherish it and think of it from the perspective of, “Do I really want to look back and the memories I only have are of me being stressed?”. Planning should be fun, this stage in your life should be fun so take it all in and enjoy it 🙂
That is all for now! If any past brides have any advice on different planning approaches I’d love to hear! Til next time.